This week Sidey’s theme is: How something appears is always a matter of perspective [Wrote this post just last week, now the Daily prompt is also giving us “perspective”!]
Apart from leading me to idiotic contortions as required to take photos, and further idiotic mind wanders in poetic verse, this prompt led to more serious thoughts. I do not think that finding a different perspective is always so easy to do. Physical contortions can be simpler than mental gymnastics. It is as if we* have minds that snap back, like bendable plastic [the opposite of ‘potty putty’] into their default perspective. [Are you optimist or pessimist? Do you identify with the underdog or the successful one? etc.?]
We can think we have changed our view, when actually we have maybe only changed the context [new job, new partner, new??]. Sometimes, fortunately, the new context brings enough difference with it, so that later, we do indeed change. Getting a change of perspective, seeing the world differently, happens, or does not happen, way down deep in the unconscious. If it happens, some neurons, synapses or whatever they are, do their shift thing, grow new connections that were not there before. Like a river changing course, from now on, the default line of action is different from before.
A new context:
Learn a language
Do something today that I do not usually do.
[Will you do something too?]
Then, listen to myself [yourself]. Find out how I feel now. Hurray! I can do this rationally, and consciously. Not to become a navel gazer, just so I can get curious about this new context and adjust while I find out more.
DOING THIS just might help those neurons shift!! [It does, and they shift more with practice, so long as I remember the practice is to help me find out about the context, not get self-absorbed. That’s a different kind of activity.]
I no longer get bothered when I feel a bit “not like me”, I just wonder what will turn up next. I seem to have found a perspective which believes in people and their capacity to be good. It seems that some with ideological views cannot find this place even though their ideology says they should.
Idealogues! Get a different perspective please!
*It was hard to write this post with a suitable pronoun [try making substitutions]. I certainly can’t use “you” in it as it applies to me also, and how do I know if it does apply to you? Though I think it does. He, she, s/he, it, they, or, putting in a general noun like “people”, makes what I am saying sound like theory or us-and-them sort of thinking. There is a special pronoun in chinese, zan-men 咱们, which is different from wo-men 我们, the usual plural of “I”. “Zanmen” means all of us present, speaker and spoken to, those who are with each other. The english “we” could assume a collective perspective, as if we all had the same view. This is NOT what “we” used in the post intends, I just mean, if you have read this far, we are all here with whatever perspective we happen to hold. Zanmen! If you like or don’t like my view, you can start a conversation with me. Please do.
Finally – if you are still here, still reading
I remember when the Japanese tsunami hit in 2011 many reports were of the incredible capacity of people to help each other.
I am hoping many of those in the Philippines, rescuers and rescued, find they can help each other get through the disaster and distress they now face together.
May they find what they can.